tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5341926691675108068.post5746819345063796691..comments2023-09-18T08:33:31.172-07:00Comments on Motherhood for the Weak: CAN YOU USE A NANNY CAM ON YOUR KIDS?Motherhood for the Weakhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06813197295291518166noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5341926691675108068.post-7781796406723991942009-10-01T19:13:34.187-07:002009-10-01T19:13:34.187-07:00Thanks Leah and Jenners. This new phase is kicking...Thanks Leah and Jenners. This new phase is kicking my butt!<br /><br />MMotherhood for the Weakhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06813197295291518166noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5341926691675108068.post-29711702553145249512009-10-01T05:54:20.999-07:002009-10-01T05:54:20.999-07:00First of all, we have a video camera and use it fo...First of all, we have a video camera and use it for all the reasons you describe ... it helps to determine if a "real" intervention is needed or if things are OK. Plus it is fun for "eavesdropping" on solo play. We don't use it as much now except at night.<br /><br />Second, that is the cardinal rule of parenting, I've learned. The second you think you have them figured out, they change everything and you start over from scratch. Just about when you start feeling relaxed, they mix it up. You can count on it.<br /><br />Third, when they discover free will, it is just easier to pick your battles and let the rest go. For example, this morning my 5-year-old chose to wear a brown and green shirt with black pants. It looked awful. He thought it looked fine. I let him wear it -- though I wanted to hang a sign on him that said "I pick out my own clothes. Mommy thinks this looks terrible." In the long run, what does it matter. Other things though, I won't give in. It is just easier that way. <br /><br />And as for tantrums, we've been lucky that he isn't a big one for that. But when they come, I just let him cry and walk away until he tires himself out. I tell him "Come get me when you're calm" Then he comes and we talk. The babeola may still be too young for this though.<br /><br />Good luck.Jennershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08044537551139633301noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5341926691675108068.post-72552432751646561342009-09-28T12:11:03.819-07:002009-09-28T12:11:03.819-07:00Michelle, I think you're doing fine. You'r...Michelle, I think you're doing fine. You're in the rough patch right now (one of several), but she will turn out fine. <br /><br />I recommend laying out two or three outfits and letting her choose. That way, you both win. You pick the right ones, and then she can be independent. As she learns to handle this choice, you can - as lifestyle permits - add additional choices (food, activities, books, paci or lovey but not both, etc.,) so she'll begin to have a sense of control. <br /><br />Keep it up. You're doing fine.Leah Hursthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16777905263417214053noreply@blogger.com